Friday, April 24, 2015

My Father

It is with the greatest sadness that my father—Lau Choon Kit—has passed away in the morning of 23 April at the age of 78 years. He was the fourth child of Chinese immigrants from Fujian Anxi. Before he married my mother, he was a primary school teacher in Kuala Lumpur. He later started his own business which he experienced both good and bad times. He retired at a relatively early age for health reasons but he was always positive about life. He has dealt with his diabetes and related illness gallantly in recent years in general and in the last two weeks in particular.

He had always cared about his children’s education. He had never coerced us in taking up specialties of his choice but he gave us visionary guidance in terms of our study abroad destinations. As a consequence, our seven siblings were spread out across the Pacific—in Tokyo, Los Angeles, Sydney and Malaysia—from 1983. I have always joked with him that: “Father, you are more far sighted than all the leaders from APEC, because you have Lau family’s branches in key places at the Pacific Rim” and he always noted smilingly. He was always proud of his seven children’s attainment--four Ph.D. (two from Japanese universities, one each from an American and an Australian university, respectively), two Masters (Japan and Australia), and one undergraduate (Japan).

The siblings are so grateful for his care and love, without which, we could not have achieved what we are now. Although he did not live an extravagance life but he has always feel more than luxury to watch our achievements. Our family will certainly miss him more than words can say, particularly the thunder of his voice. Although we mourn him with great sorrow, but at the same time we also cheer him for embarking on a new journey. “Father, your memory will live on with us forever. May you look over us—just like you have always done—from the other side ”

 “I don’t know what they are called, the spaces between seconds– but I think of you always in those intervals [sic.]” ― Salvador Plascencia, The People of Paper

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